I spent the last ~5 years exploring the heck out of identity. Unless otherwise stated, assume any view I expressed in the past is either no longer current or has substantially evolved. While none of it was egregious, I was headed down the extreme right rabbithole. I feel like it's a good idea to preempt some questions and concerns.
- Trans rights are human rights. I understand the myriad arguments people make against trans equality, and not one of them is compelling to me.
- Black lives matter. Contrary to popular misconception, saying this does not assert the opposite for other identities. I actually read Ta-Nehisi Coates' "The Case For Reparations" to the end and understood it as a chronicle of mistreatment of black people and the attacks on their communities that continue to this day. I can't have read something like that and not think it's worth asserting that black lives do in fact matter.
- Intersectionality means everyone. That means men and AMAB (assigned male at birth) people, too. While this is almost uncontroversial in 2019, saying it made one a pariah in popular progressive discourse back in the social media chaos of 2014/2015. This fact is old hat in more niche feminist discourse, but that's always been crushed under popular narratives. Common knowledge changes slowly. #MeToo and Terry Crews claiming some space for AMAB people in that discussion helped a lot. I present male out of convenience, but I identify as nonbinary due to the way gender roles (among other things) cause feelings I identified as dysphoria after much research and introspection.
Now enough about me. Let's talk about me.
Five years of exploration leads to many discoveries. A journey into the self is as valuable as any globetrotting adventure.
- I'm largely indifferent to gender. This goes for attraction and experience. In fact, this journey started when I ran across some racy furry art and thought the character was a woman. They were not. Becoming a furry, even if only for a little while, is a great way to speed run personal development. I identify as bi for convenience since most people understand it in a rough way, and it's easier to build on for a full understanding.
- I'm furry-adjacent. I went to a convention. I had fursonas. While I still participate, I don't consider msyelf very furry anymore. This is normal for people who find their way into the community for the purpose of exploration. I may go back in, but for now, I want to try on what I learned on the outside.
- I'm nonbinary. Sometimes she/her pronouns feel good. Sometimes it's the same with he/him and they/them. It rarely matters. Pronouns and names rarely cause gender dysphoria or euphoria. This is why I reclaimed the identity handed to me at birth and began the process of refining it into something for me. It's just easier that way. "Sir" and "man" and gender roles sting.
There's more, but as an experienced writer, I know better than to tell instead of show without a good reason. Stay tuned.